Decay On Net

the surest way to break your parents' hearts is to be a gay... you mock and repudiate the love your parents have for each other, the love that resulted in having you... gay people tell their parents hey you guys are fake and false... who says being homosexuals do not hurt others..yes they do! I know i'm a parent of one. you people do not know the depth of the pain!!!

Well I sure didn't choose to break my parent's heart when I told them I was gay. It is really no choice of mine and I knew I was gay since i was 7 yrs old.

Come on, who would want to choose to be gay and discriminated upon when the straights get all the good things, HDB flats, etc etc? What advantage does being gay get?

I would want to get married too but I can't betray myself living a life of a lie and also hurt a girl in the process of pretending to be straight.

Please spare a tought for all the gay people out there. We are as human as you are and have feelings too!

Goh: Indeed. But then, with or without 377A, there are still people who become gay. The law can't prevent people from being gay. Some people say its genes. Some say its mental. I say, who the hell cares.

Anon: *pat pat*

"I do admit that I don’t really like gays. It is just my preference. But that doesn’t stop me from having friends who are gay. I don’t see why my personal preference should affect the people around me. I have my choice and I strongly believe that they have theirs too."

i can't reconcile the fact taht you don't really like gays but will still have them as friends. of course your personal preferences will affect your attitudes toward the friends you make and will in turn affect the gay friends you have won't it?

Anon: Why not? You may not like what your friend does, but that doesn't mean he isn't your friend.

GOH.

The only reason why it breaks your goddamn heart is cause you discriminate against gays in the first place.

and that's what this whole issue is about. If you people keep thinking that gay is wrong and base your arguments on the assumption that being gay is wrong, then you'll never ever see the big picture of the debate. If there's no discrimination, being gay won't be "wrong" and thus won't break your heart.

I'm not gay, i'm slightly homophobic, but definitely not against homosexuality. Homosexuality should never be governed or dictated.

Shaun: Calm down. No use being so angry over it.

Perhaps we need more time for the society to accept them.

I note with interest the common thread in the argument towards keeping the section 377a. Almost all the readers whose letters had been published on the papers argue that the reason they believe section 377a should not be abolished is because the majority of Singaporeans are conservative.
Mentor Minister Mr Lee said in his interview to the International Herald Tribune on 24 August 2007 regarding the gay issues, “It's a pragmatic approach to maintain social cohesion”.
Simply put, majority rules. Fair enough, some might say. But I have a question, just because majority feel a certain way, does it make it right? Didn’t the majority of people believe that the world was flat?
“I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal." Martin Luther King said this in his speech during his demonstration for freedom for the African Americans. In the 60s when he made this speech, African Americans were not treated as equal because majority of the people didn’t think they were. Schools were segregated, they were not allowed to vote in some States and were not even allowed to sit on the buses next to white people. None of the civil rights acts of the 1960's were supported by the majority of whites. Since majority felt a certain way, did it make the racism right?
I fully appreciate that the Gay predicament in Singapore is not as drastic as that. But by allowing Section 377a to remain because majority feels a certain way, how are we any different from them. Though racial equality had not been fully achieved in many parts of the world, at least we could sigh in relief that the governments in most nations including Singapore will come down hard on any bigot.
Shame on us if 10,20 years down the road, our children would look back and be dismayed that the majority of their parents discriminated against gays.
To make a change, you don’t always need the majority. If that had been true, we would not now revere inspirational leaders like Mahatma Ghandi, Abraham Lincoln, Martin Luther King, Jesus Christ and many more.
As the best selling author Stephen R Covey said "I am personally convinced that one person can be a change catalyst”. Majority may not, necessarily, rule.

Sangeetha Bysheim

I notice that those who dislike gays like to accuse gays of being "anti-family". Those people have to prove what they assert is true. How is it that being born with a same-sex orientation cause one to be "anti-family"? Gays are also humans. They also have families. Gay children are no less and no more filial to their parents than straight children. I really can't see how sexual orientation can determine whether a person possesses "family values" or not. For the parent of a gay child, i empathise with your pain but like someone has already said, your pain came from your assumption that "gay is bad". You would feel pain too if your son is straight, but chooses to marry someone from a different social class/religion/race which you dislike. See my point? No one can choose his orientation just as no one can choose his parents or skin colour. A gay child is still your own flesh and blood. He/she will have a harder life because of all this unnecessary homophobia. Why make it even harder for him/her? The best family value is this: love your child even when the whole world hates him. Accept your child even when no one else does.

Goh: Your product is gay, so gay cannot be that bad. On the other hand and at the end of the day, being gay is not a choice. Did you choose to be straight Goh? Do you sleep with your wife and would rather be with a male?

sangs_uk: Well said.

Anon1: I think it takes time for them to change their thinking.

Anon2: Calm down. Don't need target Goh on a personal level.